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In every family the atmosphere can get hot which leads to disputes and sparkles. While women are very good at arguing so are men. They are often quiet while we talk and they watch us without understanding it… just because they don’t listen.
As oppose to the gentlemen, ladies can concentrate much easily on what they want to say. And we can do it for hours. But for out talk to be effective, we want the man to actively participate.
So, our mission is to make him hear us?
First advice is to evaluate if he is the appropriate interlocutor for the topic. You cannot be angry that he doesn’t listen carefully if you talk to him how hard it is to cut your cuticles. No matter how much the man loves you, some things just are too much. You want him, keep your girly topics for your friends. It’s the same way you die of boredom when he talks about tires, wheels and engines, understand how stunned he is when you talk about shoes.
Second advice: talk with specifics. If you want him to listen and understand what you want from him, explain it simply and clearly.
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Do not talk triads just to prove your talking skills. The most import thing is him to understand.
This is effective when you don’t constantly put stress on why he didn’t buy what you wanted, but you haven’t tried to explain as well. “I wanted something sweet, not biscuits”, for example. But the man cannot read minds (sometimes even we don’t know what we want), so be specific and you will avoid any drama and fights of the “You don’t understand and listen to me” type.
Third, be short. Long monologues bore men. If in the last hour and a half he has not said a word don’t think it’s because he listens to you with adoration, he is probably to some sunny island surrounded by chocolate beauties.
Keep your speeches for the true friends and the long girly coffees. But if you want the man to listen when you decide to share something important, be quick. This way you will spare the new scandals and repeating won’t be necessary.
